It’s a horror show out there and lady, you MUST be the exception. Thank you for your refreshing and candid comments. Us women who were discarded and whose husbands of 30+ years must feel good about ourselves because so many of our ex’s will be remarrying before us and most likely to women younger than ourselves. Started dating after a 25 yr marriage. Not sure what I want beyond companionship and sex, but I am totally open to the possibilities. At almost 52 I am still interested in sex and I believe it is necessary to create the bond in a meaningful relationship, which is what I am looking for.
We bring all of our prior life experience to any relationship we enter, so how much does it matter that one person’s history is years longer than the other’s? Here, two experts weigh in on the benefits of dating an older man, as well as the potential drawbacks. If they’re fathers, they’ve gained a new appreciation for people in general. If they lost a wife, they understand how limited time really is. And if they’ve just spent their years observing the world, they know the true importance of kindness and generosity.
I will fantasize about being in a relationship till I die. Knowing that I have absolutely no ability, to getting just a date DatingReport with a girl, let alone a relationship with a woman. I really wish that I could be in a loving relationship with someone.
I have many women friends but there is never anything sexual about these friendships because women don’t feel that around me. Since women aren’t interested, I have never asked any woman out. Friends tell me that all I have to do is flirt a bit and ask women out and I’ll have lots of dates.
And if they aren’t the one for you, that’s ok. Your statement is chock full of judgement. Trust to me is the most important quality to look for. HONESTY otherwise everything in the new relationship is not solid and uncertain.
Growing old together is not a problem, but starting out feeling very mismatched is. As a 55 year old woman, it doesn’t correspond with my experience at all. I have kept in shape and work and looking good and being kind and interesting, positive not jaded. In the real world and online, I have men from mid 40s onward interested.
Would love to contact you if you are still single. Something tells me there are millions of men like us. But the dating system is not built for us at this age. Talking about it together is a great step forward.
She may have operated her own business, been an executive, and had had a marriage that brought her joy and children as well as disappointment and heartache. She may have learned more about life than he has or been exposed to worlds he may never have fathomed. It’s just that he will never begin to know the depths of her unless he asks. He, like she, must consider sex as a bonus, not the main prize. Many older women are not husband-hunting and are far past the point of “settling.” They want companionship, conversation, affection, and whatever else develops from all that.
They can have baggage that might make you think twice, especially if you hear rants about baby mamas thrown in the mix. Much like the Aging Player, these men may need mental wellness help or to do some soul searching. They know not all women are like that, but they’ve reached the point where the resentment and rejection got so bad that they no longer could have a healthy relationship, even if they wanted to. While the most common word for a single man is a bachelor, he could also be called a player if he chooses to stay single and date many women at once, without choosing a commitment to one of them. In the case of the men who were single because of their insecurities, they might genuinely feel lonely, especially if they actually want a relationship but are too scared to put themselves out there.
It seems that good women are often hard to find too. It’s unfortunate that the rest of us can’t seem to connect. I wish you luck and I wish you well. Tim…I never hung out in bars when I was young and single and I don’t want to do it now either. I just don’t have the energy anymore to deal with trying to get out there and flaunt myself.
We worked hard and had 2 beautiful children, now morally grounded adults. Maybe some women put sex first in a relationship, but as a majority I think not. If men can step up and accept us for who we are and make an effort, I’m sure most women would want their man to be happy as well, and would gladly do what we can to please you physically. Sure men and women are different, but it’s not impossible to make a relationship work. I didn’t marry a bad boy or someone I can fix. I am not a babysitter and there is no mess to clean up.
All the women I know young and old think I’m a top bloke. Its been about 4 years since my wife left me and I haven’t had even the slightest bit of interest from a single female to act on. I feel your pain Jeffery and can relate 100% to everything you wrote.
I have to admit that I am guilty of scrutinizing against short men online. I am 5’4″ as well, but like to wear tall sexy heels. Being with a tall man allows me to walk tall and straight in my heels while at the same time making me feel more petite without slouching.